HEALING - How do you help somebody with a domestic violence situation?

You have to let them heal.

I was unfortunate enough to have witnessed my father, Mike Rinder, attack my mother. She’s a very tiny woman and he attacked her—very strongly.

At first there was blood and this and she was sort of in shock. She couldn’t believe this really happened. But then the pain just set in and it kept going and going and going and never abated. And she was in pain every day—excruciating pain. And that’s when we decided, “Okay we need to do something.” So we discovered by going to the doctor that Mike Rinder, my father, had actually cracked her shoulder when he attacked her.

And then the terror set in. It was an “Oh my God” moment. The injury she sustained was confirmed as being unhealable. She found out that she will never ever be able to fully heal from the injury for the rest of her life.

That is the very condensed story of what my father, Mike Rinder, did to my mom.

So that was what we had to confront. In such a scenario, what’s next after the domestic violence has happened? And after the incident, like for example with my father where he attacked my mother? The next step is going to be attempting to heal and doing whatever that takes. In the case of my mom, it took weeks for the pain to even calm down enough to get an operation and then months of physical therapy. And you just have to spend that time get the correct medical attention.

It also requires personal care. For me that meant giving my mom love, love, love and care and attention, and making sure we had the right doctor. It was a matter of whatever the time is that’s needed that’s what you need to invest in. And helping somebody else also helps you heal from the trauma experienced.

Another important part of healing is to take that time and spend the time and give your love to all the people in your family that aren’t abusive.

So if you know of someone that needs healing from domestic violence then help them heal. Do what I did when my father, Mike Rinder, attacked my mother viciously and damaged her for life.

Stand by that person. Help them heal. Do whatever you can do to help them, care about them, be compassionate, lend them a hand, and most importantly I think is to help provide them and make sure that they spend the full amount of time they need to do that healing so that they fully heal. And doing that you will make a difference. And it’s going to help a domestic violence survivor.

Thank you very much.

Taryn

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Mike Rinder, the Man Who Physically Debilitated My Mother for Life, has Officially Entered Old Age

As we all share the common "stay-at-home" order and social distancing, we have all had quite a lot of time to reflect.

First and foremost, I am wishing everyone good health and hoping that all are following the guidelines for this time of crisis to help flatten the curve and bring wellness to all.

It shames me at this time particularly, to know that my father, Mike Rinder spreads hate and commits what I consider to be hate-crimes for a living.

As of today he is moving into his late 60's knowing that he deserted his family, that he was the worst dad one could have (he is the exact opposite of a #Girldad), knowing that he harassed his eldest children for their entire lives, that he committed adultery, that he viciously attacked his first wife and damaged her for life and that he is a hater. There is a word for that: misanthrope.

That is not a very good place to be while nearing the end of your life-span. I wonder if he is going to consider a change of life style? Probably not, but who knows what could happen when death is looming into view.

It would be terrible having a birthday of such significance and looking back at your life and knowing you betrayed and deserted your family—your two eldest children, your wife, your mother, your brother and sister. And knowing that you physically and permanently damaged a woman who stood by you for over 30 years, that you harassed your kids generating nothing but disdain, and that your daily activity is nothing but vitriol and the demented spreading of hate.

I have seen so much heartwarming activity on social media (virtual concerts, zoom charity events, etc.) and so much kindness. It is heartening to know that the majority of the planet (97 ½ percent) is nothing like my father, Mike Rinder, a malicious man.

To all the rest, thank you for being kind and keep spreading love and care!

Taryn

Justice4mom

Take a Stand Against Domestic Violence

Hi everyone. It’s Taryn with www.justice4mom.org

Even in today’s world situation, domestic violence is a very real issue and one which I am passionate to put an end to.

I went through a situation where my father, Mike Rinder, domestically abused my mom and maimed her for life. I was with my mom and my uncle and all of a sudden out of the blue my father started attacking my mom, in a full-on, vicious rage. Because of how strong the attack was and how roughly he was hurting her, he broke her shoulder. He damaged her nerves. He gouged her flesh, and she actually has permanent damage now for the rest of her life.

My father, Mike Rinder, denied his actions. And honestly, the bald-faced lies were shocking to me because I was standing there when he was—had his arms on her body and was hurting her and intending to hurt her. And I saw the blood. I saw his anger and intent to hurt my mom. I mean that is something you can’t erase from your mind—believe me.

I don’t want any other woman to have to go through that.

So now here I am I have justice4mom and that gave me a voice and it gave me a platform to take action and to take a stand and so I did.

I’ve been able to make quite a difference with justice4mom with that platform and voice.

And actually, some big companies that were supporting my father, Mike Rinder, stopped supporting him. Disney and A&E stopped, and thank you very much because that’s one more domestic abuser not being supported.

So really I want to tell you that you can make a change. You can make a difference and you can take a stand. So if you want to know some of the things you can actually do to take action against domestic violence, I’ll tell you a few of the things I did and I suggest doing them. Things that I felt helped make the change.

I use social media a lot—Twitter, Facebook, Instagram. I made my own site: Justice4mom. That way I have a platform and a voice on social media to get the message and the truth about the domestic violence known.

I know it’s old school but write a letter. That gets attention. I did personal messages. I did various things to contact the people that were supporting this abusive man—Mike Rinder. And tell them my story and the truth directly from me.

You will see that you get a lot of support on social media and from various organizations and groups. People come out and help. I have received lots of communication, such as, “Oh my god. I want to help you. Oh. How can I help you? Oh wow. Your story’s impacting. I want to do something about it too.”

My point is don’t hold back on telling the truth, and you’ll get all that support back.

Continue to take a stand and don’t stop exposing the truth of domestic violence abuse.

I hope what I have covered is of help to you.

Taryn

Justice4mom

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